So, what can I tell you about me?
I’m the mum of two grown men and a Rainbow Unicorn Ninja (just ask her, she’ll tell you). I’m married to the man I fell in love with at first sight when we were 18 and we have been together (in total) for 30+ years. We made the move from the Nation’s Capital to the Gold Coast in 2011 and I wouldn’t move back to the cold for quids.
I’ve spent all my adult life in one kind of admin job or another (if you don’t count being a deli chick at Woolies during college) and found my niche in bookkeeping. I loved the problem-solving aspect of my job which I did part time for a wellness clinic here on the coast until the end of 2020 when I resigned to focus on my coaching business full-time.
Whilst becoming a wife and mother I also became the one that was responsible for the happiness of my husband and my kids. I believed that was my role in their lives and so did they. On the surface, making someone happy doesn’t seem like such a bad thing and it’s quite honourable really. The problem was that I expected someone else to make me happy in return and that’s when the wheels fell off.
Day after day I was putting on a brave face to mask how lonely, angry and resentful I felt. I got to a point where I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted anymore. I just knew that I couldn't live like this anymore and something had to change.
I felt tremendous amounts of guilt at first, for wanting to focus on myself. I received a lot of resistance from my family and from within. Changing the way I thought about myself was hard and it still is at times – we are all a masterpiece half finished. Changing the way my loved ones thought about me was even harder.
To make the changes I needed, wanted and deserved, I had to:
learn who I was
learn to love myself
learn how to set boundaries around how people treated me (and how I treated myself)
learn how to create a loving and supportive relationship with my husband
learn how to raise my kids to be good humans
I wasn't the only one suffering. So many of the women I was friends with were struggling just like I was. I would listen as they told me about the dreams they had given up on when they became a wife and mother and I desperately wanted to help make them come true.
That’s why I became a Professional Coach with the Life Coaching Academy (RTO 31275).
I learnt the hard way that I'm responsible for my own happiness and that my needs are just as important as everyone else's. Now I coach, mentor, teach and guide women to know and love themselves on a deeper level, chase their dreams and goals, set healthy boundaries, create loving relationships and raise good humans.
So, that’s me in a nutshell (a somewhat cracked nutshell). I hope you’ll stick around.