You’re tired aren’t you? Not just tired but exhausted.
You have an endless “To Do” list and every time you cross off one of those jobs it just reappears at the bottom of the list. It’s just an endless cycle of work, washing, ironing, cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, packing lunches, fighting to get homework done and playing taxi. There is nothing on that list for you and when you do put something on the list for yourself “SOMETHING” always comes up that is more important. Your life is like a raging river and you are caught in the rapids, being swept along with no control. You need rest. You want to sit on that river bank for a while and just watch it all rush by while you catch your breath.
Doing life is hard work. You are responsible for so much. If you don’t do it all, who will? No one offers to help you, especially those you are working so hard for. Let’s face it, even if they did help out they will fuck it up and you will have to do it again anyway.
You resent them because they have it so easy. They do nothing. You do everything.
“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got” Henry Ford
While you continue to do everything for them, they will let you. It will not occur to them to offer to help out. A sink full of dishes or an overflowing washing basket will not trigger an “I should do something about that” reaction. You have trained them well. If they leave it, it will get done.
You need to ask for help.
I know what you’re thinking: “I shouldn’t have to ask!!!” Yes, in the beginning they will look at you like you have grown an extra head. They will complain and whinge and not do it the way you like it done. It gets harder. Not only do you have to ask, you have to be really grateful when they do help, even when they fuck it up, AND DON’T re-do it yourself.
Some of the hardest things I’ve ever had to say:
“It would be great if you could clean your room” (it looks like we’ve been robbed FFS);
“I really appreciate your effort” (about time you lazy shit);
“Thanks, that looks great” (OMFG!!);
“You’re doing a great job” (I should have done it myself).
You’ve trained them to let you do it all. Now you have to train them to help.