Dealing with change


Change is hard. Even when you know it’s good for you. Even when your current situation is painful and bad for you. There is so much fear and anxiety about the unknown that you convince yourself that where you are is better.


Finding the courage to make that leap of faith can seem impossible, can take weeks/months/years and never happen for some of us.


What if you fail?

What if it’s worse?


The possibility of humiliation, ridicule and shame keeps us stuck firm right where we are.


But what if it’s better?


What if it’s so much better than you ever dared to dream?


You know what author Susan Jeffers says; “Feel the fear and do it anyway.”


The fear that keeps us comfortable in our discomfort usually comes from assumptions about how we think it will be if we change. Often there is no real evidence that it will be worse, or that we will fail, we are just afraid because the possibility is there. We focus on all the things that could go wrong instead of all the things that could go right.

When contemplating major change, we need to look at the facts and reduce the risk of failure with solid planning.


I couldn’t call myself a spiritual coach without also saying that we need to trust our instincts and our belief that the Universe will align us with what we need and guide us to take the necessary action.